Living: May 2010

Discrimination in the Military: 1942

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 31, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

The year was 1942. My father, Bennie, as he was known then, was a skinny 18 year old Jewish kid from the Weequahic section of Newark, NJ. He was drafted at 18 and sent to San Antonio, Texas, to become...Read More


When you're a VIP at Red Roof Inn

Filed by Bil Browning | May 30, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

One of the perks of being blogmaster for Bilerico Project has been all the traveling I've been able to do over the past few years. Whether I'm attending a conference to report back for the blog or I've been hired...Read More


Some Lubricants May Increase Risk for HIV Infection

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | May 29, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Two preliminary studies presented this past weekend indicate there may be an increased risk for HIV infection from using certain lubricants during unprotected anal sex. This risk applies to the receptive partner equally among men and women. The first study...Read More


1961: Love Letter to a Soldier

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 28, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: "Stories from the Frontlines: Letters to President Barack Obama" was launched to underscore the urgent need for congressional action and presidential leadership in the fight to repeal "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" (DADT). With the House and Senate votes,...Read More


Cream Rises

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 28, 2010 | 8:00 AM | comments

Do you celebrate Shallow Day? Did you see the American Idol finale? The best singer always comes in second....Read More


The Day Larry Kramer Dissed Me!

Filed by Mark S. King | May 27, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

The mall was abuzz, with people darting in and out of stores, wrangling their kids and chatting on cell phones. I preferred it that way, because it kept Larry in a fairly calm state of quiet attention, ever vigilant as...Read More


Bus driver teaches a lesson about acceptance, gets sued

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 27, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

It's rare that I see my home town in the LGBT news, but here it is. I guess I should have ridden the bus in school instead of always walking or biking. Sounds exciting: "If you can't believe in tolerance...Read More


Gay Bashing Christian Group Poses Qur'anic Problems for MN GOP

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | May 26, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Election years bring the queerest of skeletons out of the closet. And the Minnesota Republican party, including Michele Bachmann and gubernatorial candidate Tom Emmer, have a doozy: ties to a punk rock ministry whose leader, Bradlee Dean, praises Muslims nations...Read More


Moving Day

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 26, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

As some of you Projectors may or may not be aware of, with Polar's help I recently moved back to my birth state and my hometown of Houston after spending eight years in Louisville. While some things changed, such as...Read More


Moving Day

Filed by Monica Roberts | May 26, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

As some of you Projectors may or may not be aware of, with Polar's help I recently moved back to my birth state and my hometown of Houston after spending eight years in Louisville. While some things changed, such as...Read More


Struggle to Survive: A Career in the Marines

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 26, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: "Stories from the Frontlines: Letters to President Barack Obama" is a new media campaign launched to underscore the urgent need for congressional action and presidential leadership at this critical point in the fight to repeal "Don't Ask, Don't...Read More


The kind of girl I am

Filed by Cassandra Keenan | May 24, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

A lot of guys, I make them abruptly blurt out, "What's your name?" after talking to me for a mere minute or two. They are overcome with excitement because I am a bubbly type and also naturally friendly to the...Read More


Two Worlds in Texas

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 24, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

I recently returned from a visit with the Mormon side of my extended family--an experience that I'm processing by obsessively watching Big Love on DVD. I should hasten to say that the Mormons on Big Love don't actually remind me...Read More


Two Worlds in Texas

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 24, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

I recently returned from a visit with the Mormon side of my extended family--an experience that I'm processing by obsessively watching Big Love on DVD. I should hasten to say that the Mormons on Big Love don't actually remind me...Read More


She who laughs last...

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 24, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

I posted a month ago about the Westboro Baptist Church's intent to protest Constance McMillen's graduation. I can't find much coverage, but The Advocate says six of the Phelpsters showed up: Six members of the Kansas-based Westboro Church, mostly members...Read More


Google Throws Froyo in Apple's Face

Filed by Nathan Strang | May 23, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Froyo. Tart, Refreshing, and with a Web Browser faster than the iPad. Not to mention it's good for a healthy digestion. Froyo is the confectionary moniker for Android's 2.2 release announced at this week's Google I/O (think a Revenge of...Read More


Anatomy of a Short Sale; or, My Personal Red Flag on the LGBT Mortgage Crisis

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | May 23, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

While the world has been going to hell in a hand basket, I've been moving. Hence my month-long hiatus from Bilerico posting. On April 30, after weeks of packing personal and business effects, escrow closed on the short sale of...Read More


Letters to President Barack Obama - A Retired, Ordained United Methodist Pastor

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 23, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

As readers of my personal blog, Michael-in-Norfolk, cannot help but know, I am one of the bloggers participating in the SLDN campaign "Letters from the Frontlines - Letters to President Barack Obama," along with the Bilerico and dozens of other...Read More


Harvey Milk and Bakersfield

Filed by Davina Kotulski | May 22, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Years ago my wife, Molly, and I were driving through Bakersfield and stopped at an IHOP, Denny's, or one of those places you go to when you're on the road. We met a really nice waitress and she came out...Read More


A Few Quick Words About Small Government

Filed by Don Davis | May 22, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

We don't have a lot of time for a big discussion today, but I wanted to take a second and talk about basic federal government economics as they apply to Rand Paul. It is his stated vision to reduce the...Read More


Letting Go of Internalized Homophobia

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 21, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

With all of the media coverage of the George Rekers rentboy.com scandal I once again got to thinking about the self-loathing homophobes like Rekers who make careers out of pushing measures and disseminating lies in order to deprive LGBT citizens...Read More


Letting Go of Internalized Homophobia

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 21, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

With all of the media coverage of the George Rekers rentboy.com scandal I once again got to thinking about the self-loathing homophobes like Rekers who make careers out of pushing measures and disseminating lies in order to deprive LGBT citizens...Read More


Unnatural Gas

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 21, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

"Don't get a swelled head." "Don't be a hot dog." Those were the messages I got when I was growing up. So I don't brag. There was that time I did share with you that I got one of those...Read More


Slimed

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 21, 2010 | 8:00 AM | comments

What in the hell is BP actually doing about this oil spill? Does anyone know? I'm so furious I think my head might explode....Read More


Cheating Harvard

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 20, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Adam Wheeler defrauded Harvard out of thousands of dollars: $31,000 in financial aid, $8,000 in a research grant, and $6,000 in English prizes. Many applauded his feat while others are appalled by his nerve. Had his hubris not gotten the...Read More


Positive and Partners Retreat: Montana in the Forefront?

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 20, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

This weekend, Ken and I will be attending our third Rising Hope Retreat for HIV+ persons and their "partners" (widely interpreted as caregivers, sibling, parent, husband, wife, son, daughter, etc). To my knowledge, no other state does such a thing,...Read More


Positive and Partners Retreat: Montana in the Forefront?

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 20, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

This weekend, Ken and I will be attending our third Rising Hope Retreat for HIV+ persons and their "partners" (widely interpreted as caregivers, sibling, parent, husband, wife, son, daughter, etc). To my knowledge, no other state does such a thing,...Read More


Our Rentboy Deserves Better

Filed by Father Tony | May 20, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

The recent disclosure that antigay Professor George Rekers hired a 20 year old rentboy to accompany him on a trip abroad has been extensively covered by both the LGBT and mainstream media. Rekers now fits into the mold of what...Read More


No Running Away

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 19, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

The chemo was hard, very hard for my sister. It's hard to accept such poison is actually going to help her in the long run. A very long run, as in marathon, not 5k. We talked last night about how...Read More


Transformed in Exile - Father John McNeill

Filed by Father Tony | May 19, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

This profile of Father McNeill appears in this week's South Florida Gay News. It is said that in south Florida you'll find an ex-priest in every gay bar. Each has his own sad story of disappointment with his church, but...Read More


How you can help end the HIV epidemic

Filed by Adam Bink | May 18, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

And no, this doesn't have to do with condoms or getting tested. Today is HIV Vaccine Awareness Day, so I have to take a moment to get personal on you. I'm in the middle of reading And The Band Played...Read More


Bullies: The Wizard of Oz and Tomato Soup

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | May 18, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Peter Monn (and his partner, Alex) is a Bilerico-Indiana blogger. We've lifted this up to the main site to share with everyone. We have this amazing little girl that lives next door to us. Everyday when we take...Read More


Bullies: The Wizard of Oz and Tomato Soup

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | May 18, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Peter Monn (and his partner, Alex) is a Bilerico-Indiana blogger. We've lifted this up to the main site to share with everyone. We have this amazing little girl that lives next door to us. Everyday when we take...Read More


Are you in the Fight to End AIDS?

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | May 18, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

As massive dark gray clouds cast a murky shadow, like that of the uncontrolled plumes of oil in the Gulf Coast, for more than 1,500 people living with HIV/AIDS in 10 states are languishing on a wait list to access...Read More


Sam Brownback's Pastor Problem: Evangelical Extremist Lou Engle

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 18, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

American Evangelical Extremist Lou Engle is making waves again. Readers may remember Engle as the fringe pastor behind TheCall Rally in California supporting Proposition 8, where he called homosexuality a "spirit of lawlessness" and called for "martyrs" to become "God's...Read More


Stopped Dead in My Tracks

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 17, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

In a moment, sometimes, you're whole life can change. A friend of mine had her whole life change in an instant last Friday with a call from the doctor- cancer. It was caught early, it is a fairly curable cancer...Read More


Poisonous Parenting: The "Intact Family" Edition

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 17, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

My initial reaction to Ross Douthat’s (whose name I habitually mispronounce as “Ross Doubt-that”) recent New York Times column was to roll my eyes. Fifty years ago, American family structures were remarkably uniform. The rich married at roughly the same...Read More


Neo-Neands

Filed by Kate Clinton | May 17, 2010 | 8:00 AM | comments

May is now officially National Neanderthal Awareness Month....Read More


Silence = Death

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | May 16, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

This coming Tuesday I leave for Washington, DC to attend an event celebrating the successful repeal of an age old ban prohibiting the use of federal fund for syringe-exchange programs and to also honor the amazing contributions of those involved...Read More


Video: Senator Evan Bayh's AIDS Joke

Filed by Bil Browning | May 15, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Senator Evan Bayh (D) made an AIDS joke at the 2010 Indiana Jefferson Jackson Day Dinner last night. The Indiana Stonewall Democrats walked out after the joke. Senator Bayh says he was just "misunderstood." Asked for a statement, state party...Read More


Question of the day: What should we call George Rekers, et al.?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 14, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

LZ Granderson has a great column up at CNN.com on closeted bi/homosexuals who work to hurt and keep the rest of us in the closet. As he says, it'd be something like "Uncle Tom" but for the gay world. It's...Read More


Trans teen's killer gets 99 years

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 13, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

The man who pled guilty to killing Jorge Steven Lopez Mercado got sentenced to 99 years in prison: A man accused of decapitating a gay teenager and burning his body pleaded guilty to first-degree murder on Wednesday and was sentenced...Read More


Move It Or Lose It

Filed by Father Tony | May 13, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Tony, I'm 38 and love my job. I met a guy who lives in San Francisco. I live in Worchester, MA. Six months go by. Now he asks me to move to SF and live with him. I...Read More


Grieving, Grooving and Growing

Filed by D Gregory Smith | May 12, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

When I wrote my last article "The Next Time You See An Old Man On The Bus," little did I know that my work as the caregiver for an 85-year-old man - with quite a delightful history himself - was...Read More


Bad News

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 12, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Sorry, but I have bad news. I hate bad news. But you know, when I'm gone for a while, it usually means bad news. My sister starts chemo this week. It is hard to be hopeful, but hopeful is what...Read More


Spotlight 2010: Love Conquers Slurs

Filed by Peter Monn and Alex Paredes | May 11, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Love. Red ribbons. Lots of them. Voices carry. Dancers glide like an orange tango on the wind. Strings collide in a unity of subtle joy. Children sing moments before a giant sized drag queen dances a last dance. Smiles everywhere....Read More


UPDATE: The Pres, the Prom, and the Alliance

Filed by Amy Hunter | May 10, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

If you read my original post: "The President, the Promise and the Alliance" from last Thursday, then you know it was about the Kalamazoo Michigan high school where President Obama will be delivering the commencement address this June. That post's...Read More


Why George Rekers and Those Like Him Deserve No Compassion

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 10, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Perhaps I am more hard-hearted than some, but contrary to some other contributors, I find it difficult to feel any compassion for reparative therapy guru George Rekers. A column in Newsweek looks at the ongoing self-incurred destruction now consuming Rekers...Read More


My Yiddishe Momme

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 09, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

The greatest song about Jewish mothers is "My Yiddishe Momme" (pronounced "mom' meh). Many famous singers have performed it, and today's the perfect day to hear it again. I was born on Mother's Day. My mother passed in 1988, when...Read More


My Fabulous Disease: What It Feels Like For A Mom

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 09, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Mark S. King is a poz writer and video blogger ("My Fabulous Disease") who has advocated for those living with HIV since testing positive in 1985. His book, "A Place Like This," chronicles life in Los Angeles in...Read More


I'm here to help

Filed by Amy Hunter | May 08, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Haiti Dr. Joia Mukherjee is an impressive person. She holds an MPH from Harvard, specializes in infectious diseases, and practices internal medicine and pediatrics. Considered one of the foremost experts on public health policy and implementation, she teaches the subject...Read More


Reker's escort: He was totally gay for me

Filed by Bil Browning | May 07, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Joe.My.God scored an interview with Jo-Vanni Roman, the 20 year old escort who accompanied anti-gay activist George Rekers on a 10-day European trip. I've had many conversations with Joe - both online and off - and if there's one gay...Read More


When Gay Becomes A Weapon

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | May 06, 2010 | 8:00 PM | comments

Homosexuality's instability boggles the mind. One day it's a good thing, something of which one should be proud, and the next it's being used as a weapon, and proves quite explosive. Gay, the action, the adjective and the concept, proves...Read More


The President, the Promise and the Alliance

Filed by Amy Hunter | May 06, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

This June in Kalamazoo, Michigan, President Obama will deliver the commencement address to Kalamazoo Central High School's class of 2010. KCHS was one of three finalists in the first "Race to the Top" competition and the President's final choice. With...Read More


Oil Spill - a Gift of Bush/Cheney? - to Foul Entire East Coast?

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 06, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Having spent a couple of years as in-house counsel for an oil company, I do know a little bit about the oil industry and try not to be too quick to judge the industry negatively unless it is deserved. As...Read More


Rekers And The Rentboy - A Path To Gay Heroism?

Filed by Father Tony | May 06, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Should we allow an anti-gay crusader privacy about his secret gay sex life? Should an escort blow the whistle on his client? Should the escort's friends set him up in order to expose his client? Should we act with compassion...Read More


Texas considers another transsexual-cissexual marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 05, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Texas's AG, who recently stepped into a court case from a married, same-sex couple asking to divorce in Texas, is being asked to consider a marriage license for a cis woman and a trans woman. The trans woman, Sabrina Hill,...Read More


Texas considers another transsexual-cissexual marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 05, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Texas's AG, who recently stepped into a court case from a married, same-sex couple asking to divorce in Texas, is being asked to consider a marriage license for a cis woman and a trans woman. The trans woman, Sabrina Hill,...Read More


In Lak Ech: You are the other me

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 05, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: The Two-Spirit First Nations Collective is comprised of Indigenous peoples who identify as two-spirit, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, gender-non-conforming, queer and allies. They came together out of a shared commitment to social justice work with an intersectional approach...Read More


Repeal of DADT Solidarity Rally in Phoenix Arizona

Filed by Bobby Parker | May 03, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

While six brave activists were chaining themselves to the White House Fence and getting arrested yesterday, simultaneously Petty Officer Lonnie Allen Howard-Stidham and supporters from more than a dozen LGBT organizations in Phoenix marched in solidarity on Senator John McCain's...Read More


American Evangelical Lou Engle Promotes "Kill the Gays" Bill at Sunday's Rally in Uganda

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 03, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Over 1,300 people gathered at Makerere University in Kampala, Uganda on Sunday to hear American Evangelical Lou Engle preach at a rally and prayer service against "homosexuality, witchcraft, and corruption." Engle's involvement in organizing TheCall Uganda was mired in controversy...Read More


Andrew Sullivan: Pep Talk to LGBT Virginians at Equality Virginia Event

Filed by Michael Hamar | May 02, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

Last night's Commonwealth Dinner was a wonderful affair and the venue at the Marriott was far superior to that of the Richmond Convention Center where it has been for the past several years. The key note speaker, Andrew Sullivan, provided...Read More


Why Regulate When You Can Masturbate?

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 01, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

How, many people have asked since news broke about Bernie Madoff’s $50 billion ponzi scheme, could regulators have let such a blatant criminal slip through their fingers? We know, now. The Securities and Exchange Commission is the sheriff of the...Read More


ENDA Cuts Off Student Loans For Christian Colleges

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | May 01, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Well, according to this Family Research Council video. No, really. In fact, according to this video, Obama's Department of Education has already ordered Christian schools to comply or face a cut-off of federal funds. It's the end of the 100...Read More