Living: October 2010

The Scariest Holloween Sight

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 31, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Seen in Tuxedo, New York tonight:...Read More


Georgia Megachurch Pastor Jim Swilley Comes Out

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | October 31, 2010 | 5:30 PM | comments

Bishop Jim Swilley, pastor of the Georgia interdenominational megachurch Church In The Now has announced that he is gay. Swilley is a fourth generation pastor who says he has always been called to preach and has known since he was...Read More


Mean Boys, Mean Girls

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 31, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Victor Bumbalo is an award winning internationally produced playwright. He has also written for several popular television shows. Tyler Clementi. Our hearts break. His life is over because his roommate and a classmate thought it was...Read More


Mean Boys, Mean Girls

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 31, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Victor Bumbalo is an award winning internationally produced playwright. He has also written for several popular television shows. Tyler Clementi. Our hearts break. His life is over because his roommate and a classmate thought it was...Read More


My Halloween Birthday

Filed by Gloria Nieto | October 31, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Today is my birthday. With it comes cards, hopefully a cake and trick or treaters to the door. What it doesn't bring is the phone call I had every year with my friend, Gary, who shared the same birthday, even...Read More


Happy Halloween, my lovely friends

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | October 30, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

via cuteoverload.com Thought I'd spread a little puggish holiday cuteness and use this opportunity to tell readers (and editors and colleagues!) just how much I love you guys, and how very deeply honored I feel that I get to...Read More


Apple pulls PeekABooTranny app

Filed by Bil Browning | October 29, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Sometimes there's not an app for everything. It appears transphobia is once again an App Store taboo. Thanks to GLAAD and everyone who called Apple's public relations number yesterday, the technology behemoth has yanked PeekABooTranny from its online store. It...Read More


Gay Shame's "Emergency Kuarantine"

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 29, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Toshio Meronek is a writer and aspiring voiceover artist living in San Francisco. He blogs on disability news and pop culture at Where's Lulu. On October 15, the queer radicals of Gay Shame turned their lens on the...Read More


Homophobic schools don't have to exist

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 29, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

This is as close to a policy statement as there's been in Europe on the subject of discrimination against gay teachers. Now we'll have to wait for a test case: The European Commission has said that Roman Catholic schools in...Read More


Vote For Health Care

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 29, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Still looking for a reason to vote? Here’s a three word answer: health care reform. I’m not sure why Democrats aren’t running on it, but it’s a big step towards "change we can believe in" — the kind that some...Read More


Peekaboo Tranny!

Filed by Bil Browning | October 28, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

So there's this great new app on the iPhone that I'm sure Bilerico readers cannot live without... It's called "PeekabooTranny." Now what does this wonderful can't-live-without-it app do? You take a picture with it and -- wait for it --...Read More


LAPD Looking for Suspect in Brutal Beating of Transgender Woman In Hollywood

Filed by Karen Ocamb | October 28, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

LAPD investigators are looking for five suspects who may have been involved with a brutal attack on a transgender woman in Hollywood. The 25-year-old victim left a bar frequented by gay Latinos near the intersection of La Brea and Melrose...Read More


Sweet and Silly Soldiers: 1930s photo

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | October 28, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

A delightful pre-World War two shot of a group of young German soldiers having fun with fig leaves....Read More


Sowing the Seeds of Love

Filed by Father Tony | October 28, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Father Tony, I can feel my boyfriend is slipping away from me and my stomach is in knots. I have been through this before. This is my third boyfriend so I know this feeling when it happens. He's...Read More


Building a more tolerant & inclusive climate

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 28, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Peter Shumlin, the Vermont Senate President Pro Tempore. Senator Shumlin is currently running for Governor of Vermont and has been an incredible force in the fight for marriage equality. The struggle for equal rights for gay...Read More


My Next Steps

Filed by Marc Solomon | October 28, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Over the past year-and-a-half, I have headed up Equality California's efforts to win back the freedom to marry. During this time, I've had the chance to work with thousands of tremendous organizers, advocates, volunteers, donors, elected officials, and other leaders...Read More


Ever Wonder Why There's No AIDS Vaccine Yet?

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 27, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

As the global crisis deepens, a growing number of Americans are disturbed at how big government and big corporations can show a shocking callousness towards human need. The "bigs" spend a lot of money on TV advertising, trying to convince...Read More


Notorious Homophobe New Head Of Montana Tea Party Group

Filed by D Gregory Smith | October 27, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

You heard me. KXLH News is reporting that: Tim Ravndal, who headed the Big Sky Tea Party until he was ousted following a controversial message he posted on Facebook, has been tapped for a leadership post in the Lewis &...Read More


GetEqual wins big in Indianapolis

Filed by Bil Browning | October 27, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

GetEqual Indiana has pulled off a coup in Indianapolis. After meeting with the city this morning about sensitivity training for Indy police officers, the group not only walked out with the full support of the city for diversity training but...Read More


Wizard hats, frat boys, and gay undergrads at Emory University

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 27, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

I am a proud Emory alum. I have to start by saying that. From 1994 to 1998 I was an undergrad at the university, a place that has left an indelible mark on my life. I still stay officially connected...Read More


What I Can't Say

Filed by Diane Silver | October 26, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

I'm in awe of my friend Jennifer Lawler, who writes so movingly about raising Jessica. I wish I had half of Jennifer's talent. But this morning in meditation I finally stopped picking at myself for spending the last few days...Read More


California helps LGBTQ youth in foster care

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | October 26, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

The vast majority of states are officially silent on the issue of both LGBT foster parents and LGBT children in the foster care system. We've gotten so used to opposing the states that ban LGBT foster and adoptive parents that...Read More


How to fight homophobia in schools

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 26, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

While I'm guessing there's a lot of hype behind this story of a school in North London that claims to have eliminated anti-gay bullying, they're going in one of the many right directions and I imagine American conservatives' heads would...Read More


Potosnak: We Must Do Better

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 26, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Ed Potosnak is running for Congress in New Jersey. Ed is one of a handful of openly gay candidates this season and could really use your support. National Stonewall Democrats have raised $838 for him as...Read More


NOM's Hate Bus To Tour Iowa

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 25, 2010 | 10:00 AM | comments

NOM is going for yet another bus tour despite embarrassing failures for the past bus tours. This one is their "Judge Bus Tour." Bleeding Heartland reports: On Monday, Family Research Council Action and the National Organization for Marriage will launch...Read More


Lovers or Goofballs? Vintage dancing men

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | October 25, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

I keep finding strange private shots of men dancing, which is lovely. What would be even lovelier if is if I had a clue about what's going on. Unfortunately, about 90% of the stuff I post on Bilerico comes out...Read More


Terry Branstad Tells Kids Their Family Does Not Matter

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 24, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Iowans before you vote, please watch this video. More importantly please make sure all your Iowan friends and family watch this video. If I had my wish, everyone that reads Bilerico would share this video every day until November 2....Read More


A Gay Kiss In, Diversity Days, and Gigantic Gumby Jesus

Filed by Davina Kotulski | October 24, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Next week I'm going to Arkansas. Home of Bill Clinton, Wal-Mart, and some notorious crimes committed by Bonnie and Clyde. It's also home to the kid who refused to say the pledge of alliegance until gay people can legally marry...Read More


My religion is better for gays than yours

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 24, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Here's a story from earlier this week: Most Americans believe messages about homosexuality coming from religious institutions contribute to negative views of gays and lesbians, and higher rates of suicide among gay youths, a new poll reports. While split on...Read More


Lingerie Lady Love: Vintage lesbian fetish erotica

Filed by Gloria Brame, Ph.D. | October 23, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Possibly a little hardcore for the gentle Projectors, but so unusual I thought it had to be shared. Photo is from ca. 1930s, and part of a series of 1920s-1930s amateur porn photos I recently located, showing playful, frisky, happy...Read More


Gay student teacher gets his job back in Beaverton, Oregon

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 23, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Seth Stambaugh, who was removed from his student teaching job when he came out to a student, is allowed to go back to his position. The school released a statement: The Beaverton School District and Lewis & Clark Graduate School...Read More


Adding The Voices Of Our Elders

Filed by D Gregory Smith | October 22, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

I've worked with, lived with and am proud to have friends who are my LGBT elders. I love their voices of experience, of self-knowledge and humor. I also love the stories of desperate survival in societies and situations well beyond...Read More


With Equality on the Line, Your Vote is Critical

Filed by Michael Emanuel Rajner | October 22, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Conservative right-wing extremists are working harder than ever to get elected and trample on the rights and hopes of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. While many of us may be angered and frustrated with the slow progress for...Read More


Andy Moreno on MTV

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 21, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

I posted about Andy Moreno earlier, before she was officially disqualified from running for prom queen because she's trans. And now MTV did a report on her:...Read More


You Cannot Catch HIV Through A Trial Vaccine

Filed by Father Tony | October 21, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

If I learned nothing else on a recent night in Harlem where my husband and I attended the screening and announcement of the winning Generation V videos sponsored by the New York City HIV Vaccine Trials Unit, I did get...Read More


Queer Family Romance

Filed by Paige Schilt | October 20, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

On Wednesdays, I pick Waylon up from school at 2:45. I have fifteen minutes to walk him to the car, feed him a snack, hydrate him, and deliver him to his occupational therapy appointment a mile away. If all goes...Read More


Queer Family Romance

Filed by Paige Schilt | October 20, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

On Wednesdays, I pick Waylon up from school at 2:45. I have fifteen minutes to walk him to the car, feed him a snack, hydrate him, and deliver him to his occupational therapy appointment a mile away. If all goes...Read More


Last gay Nazi survivor speaks

Filed by Bil Browning | October 20, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

This is a fascinating bit of LGBT history. Rudolf Brazda, the last gay survivor of the Nazi concentration camps, spoke with reporters recently and gives a personal glimpse into what it was like to wear the pink triangle. For all...Read More


Unemployment Stats

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 20, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Today, in my Gender, Work and Family Class, we looked at employment stats, and discussed theories of why they look the way they do in terms of gender, race and class. Of course, we called them "theoretical frameworks," so I...Read More


Hillary Clinton: Don't just wait, get help now to make it better

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 20, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

As Bil posted yesterday, GLAAD is asking people to wear purple today to support LGBT teens. If you're not currently dressed, consider it. Also, Hillary Clinton did an It Gets Better video, and she made sure to tell people to...Read More


Thirty years after my win on The Price is Right

Filed by Mark S. King | October 19, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

When I was nineteen years old, I vacationed to Los Angeles with my boyfriend and won a car on "The Price is Right." It was a long time ago. Thirty years. I have a videotape of the entire episode and...Read More


Wear purple tomorrow to support LGBT youth!

Filed by Bil Browning | October 19, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

Wednesday is Spirit Day! Teenager Brittany McMillan came up with the idea and it quickly took Facebook by storm as thousands of people signed up to wear purple tomorrow to honor the LGBT youth who've recently died after being bullied....Read More


High school chants "Powder blue faggots"

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 19, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

I posted a video a high school student took at a football game of her classmates chanting "Powder blue faggots" at the opposing team. Here's more from the local news (written story at the link): Well, I didn't see the...Read More


Why Meghan McCain's Wrong About 'Nut Job' O'Donnell

Filed by Andrew Belonsky | October 19, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Meghan McCain may have sparked a Republican war yesterday when she said the Delaware Senatorial candidate Christine O'Donnell, the right wing's latest darling, comes off as a "nut job." McCain's word choice may be spot on, sure, but her argument...Read More


Who cares about queer youth?

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 19, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

It's important to remember that it's not just in school that LGBT teens are bullied and made to feel that there's something wrong with them because of their sexuality or gender, but everywhere, including other social services for youth. Mother...Read More


A one-question interview with Sassafras Lowrey

Filed by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore | October 18, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

Mattilda: You recently edited Kicked Out, an anthology of stories by current and formerly homeless queer youth (including yourself) -- one of the dominant themes in the book involves the chosen families that youth create in order to challenge, undo,...Read More


Trans and Mental Health: "But It Shouldn't Matter If I Was."

Filed by Mercedes Allen | October 18, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

A guest post by Static Nonsense at Questioning Transphobia entitled Intersections of Disability and Transgenderism raises some important points that apply to the campaigns to remove GID from the DSM and ICD that govern mental health issues: But it sometimes...Read More


"It Gets Better" isn't perfect, but it will save lives

Filed by Austen Crowder | October 17, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I contributed my voice to the "It Gets Better" project. I know there's some guff coming toward this project from all comers - both inside and outside the community - but I think it's a worthy cause if for nothing...Read More


You Can Save an LGBT Youth from Suicide - I Did

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 17, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger John R. Selig is a gay dad, writer, photographer, podcaster and activist living in Dallas, Texas. Selig produces and his "John Selig Outspoken" podcast to provide role models to gays, lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people. Though...Read More


Half a Spouse Is Better Than None

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 15, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Robyn Greenspan is a social media and executive careers expert and writer, but most importantly, happily and legally married. Friday nights are the hardest. After a long week in the office, it used to be the...Read More


I Heart The Ali Forney Center for Homeless Youth

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 15, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

Last night I drove into NYC from my aerie in the countryside, in the midst of a nor'easter (it wasn't that bad), to meet with Bill Torres, the Director of Community Resources at the Ali Forney Center for homeless LGBT...Read More


Come party with us, Cupcake!

Filed by Bil Browning | October 15, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Tonight's the night! It's almost time for Bil & Becky's Birthday Bash! But before you can even get to the party, we've had a sponsor kick in to make the party even better. Hello Cupcake is baking dozens of cupcakes...Read More


Student protests bullying outside his school

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 14, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Notice how the journalist says that the school hasn't been helpful right after the interview with the administrator. It's not so hard to report the facts. I wish I had been that cool when I was in middle school....Read More


LGBT teachers still fear being fired for coming out

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 14, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

I posted recently about Beaverton, Oregon, firing a student teacher because he came out when a student asked him why he wasn't married. I wrote: Stambaugh is just the tip of this iceberg, one of the few teachers willing to...Read More


Murderer of two elderly gay men convicted

Filed by Bil Browning | October 14, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

The man accused of beating two elderly gay men to death in an Indianapolis suburb in late 2008 has been convicted of murder in both cases. Michael Brown "discovered" the bodies and called police in an attempt to mask his...Read More


An Open Letter To The Bishop Of Fresno

Filed by Father Tony | October 14, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Dear Bishop Steinbock, Because I count myself among the people of God, I thank you for writing to me about the fact that a judge has ruled that denying civil marriage to LGBT people is unjust. Your 10 point letter...Read More


Dinner with my Gay Grannies

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 14, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Jeff Lutes is a psychotherapist who lives with his husband and their three adopted children in Austin, Texas. He is the principal consultant for ContemporaryCouples.com, where he teaches online dating and relationship workshops to the LGBTQ...Read More


Anti-Gay Christians: Do They Still Embrace the Bible As Justification for Slavery Too?

Filed by Michael Hamar | October 13, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

I have written before about the need of the LGBT community to confront anti-gay religious bigots and use their own rhetoric to expose their hypocrisy and intellectual dishonesty. This is particularly true when publications like the Washington Post give gay...Read More


The Positives of being Negative

Filed by Mark S. King | October 13, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

HIV negative gay men hear a lot about what they should be doing (or not doing), but rarely about what they are doing well. They have had to plod along, making the best choices they could to remain negative, fearing...Read More


It's my birthday (party)!

Filed by Bil Browning | October 13, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Come help me and one of my best friends, Becky Dansky, celebrate our birthday! My birthday was last Friday and Becky's is October 27. If you came to last year's party you'll remember Becky as the lovely woman who held...Read More


Outing Homophobia and Transphobia

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 13, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' note: Rebecca Haskell is a queer feminist and trans ally. She holds a master's degree in Criminology from Simon Fraser University. She currently works at the BC Society of Transition Houses. Brian Burtch is a Professor of Criminology and...Read More


Predators

Filed by D Gregory Smith | October 12, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I am filled with frustration, anger, sadness and pain with the rash of gay teen suicides, the hate speech being spewed by religious leaders, the hate institutionalized by organizations, the violence directed toward peaceful people, the silence by those who...Read More


The Playground is Often Anything but Playful

Filed by Lisa Weiner-Mahfuz | October 12, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

Retard. Stupid. Uneducable. These were the words that were used to describe me and dozens of students with disabilities in my elementary school. Each morning, the "resource room" teacher would walk the hallways going from classroom to classroom calling out...Read More


Coming Out at Fourteen

Filed by Leone Kraus | October 12, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Chasing Girls As far back as I can remember I've always chased girls. I'd frequently buy my middle school "best friend" flowers and boxed chocolate with my $5 a week allowance. When I could, I'd slip my hand into hers...Read More


Accepted? Top colleges recruiting LGBT students

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 12, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Drew Cordes is a transgender woman from Albany, N.Y. She is a 2004 graduate of Vassar College. A recent story in Details magazine examines the hypercompetitive college-application process at the country's top schools, and asks whether...Read More


My first coming out day

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 11, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

The Reverend Sammy Clark had one of the thickest Georgia accents I had ever heard in my life. He was a United Methodist minister; a representative of a denomination that did not affirm LGBTQ people. He was already well into...Read More


My first coming out day

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 11, 2010 | 6:30 PM | comments

The Reverend Sammy Clark had one of the thickest Georgia accents I had ever heard in my life. He was a United Methodist minister; a representative of a denomination that did not affirm LGBTQ people. He was already well into...Read More


No Room at the Inn For Lord Jesus Christ III?

Filed by Mercedes Allen | October 11, 2010 | 4:30 PM | comments

I haven't seen anyone remark on this yet, but even if someone in our community may seem colourful, that doesn't mean that their issues are less significant. MassLive reported that Lord Jesus Christ III was ejected from a Belchertown library...Read More


Can Coming Out in a Religious Context Help Bullied LGBTQ Youth?

Filed by Dana Rudolph | October 11, 2010 | 3:30 PM | comments

There's been a lot written on the recent bullying-related suicides. I found this piece by Rabbi Victor Appell, "If Only Tyler Clementi Had Been to a Gay Synagogue," particularly moving. Too often religion and LGBT rights are set up as...Read More


Coming Out: The Agony And The Ecstasy

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 11, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

She opened the door of the apartment where we had made a life together, her eyes steady, but ready to fill with tears. She knew that I had something to tell her, but I had refused to say what in...Read More


This Can't Happen Here: Suicide of Tyler Clementi, Rutgers University

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 11, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Editors' note: Jarad Ringer is a Coordinator of Hate Violence and Police Relations Programs at the New York City Anti Violence Project. As a Rutgers University alumnus, I was devastated to learn of the suicide of Tyler Clementi, an 18...Read More


This Can't Happen Here: Suicide of Tyler Clementi, Rutgers University

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 11, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Editors' note: Jarad Ringer is a Coordinator of Hate Violence and Police Relations Programs at the New York City Anti Violence Project. As a Rutgers University alumnus, I was devastated to learn of the suicide of Tyler Clementi, an 18...Read More


Another gay teen commits suicide

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 11, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

From Oklahoma: An Oklahoma teen, Zach Harrington, 19, has committed suicide, barely one week after attending a local City Council meeting where a debate over whether or not the city would recognize October as LGBT History Month got "toxic," with...Read More


My Life Again in New York, cont.

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | October 10, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

The song "Somewhere" from West Side Story is constantly in my head now because the A train, which I take every day to wherever it is I might be going, as it approaches the station sings the first three notes....Read More


DC Starbucks bathrooms go gender free

Filed by Bil Browning | October 08, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

I noticed this yesterday when I went into a Starbucks to grab my venti mocha with light whip and while it stuck out that there was something different, it didn't really register what the difference was. The DC Starbucks have...Read More


Campus Pride: Expel Two Rutgers Students for Invasion of Privacy Related to Tyler Clementi's Suicide

Filed by Karen Ocamb | October 08, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Campus Pride, the nation's leading organization of LGBT and ally college and university students, is calling for Rutgers University to "act decisively to expel both Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei for invasion of privacy of fellow student Tyler Clementi." On...Read More


A little known legacy in the LGBT community

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 08, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Andy Szekeres is a political consultant from Denver who specializes on LGBT ballot measures and progressive candidates and causes. Americans for Democratic Action has been one of the most powerful forces in all liberal politics. For...Read More


When will the homophobic bullying cease?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | October 07, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

When Sirdeaner L. Walker of Springfield spoke at a press conference in Massachusetts last year calling for effective and comprehensive anti-bullying legislation to be passed in response to the tragic loss of her 11-year-old-son, Carl, I had hoped I would...Read More


Transgender student barred from running for homecoming queen

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 07, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

Andy Moreno is awesome, standing up and fighting against one of the constant messages sent to LGBT students that there's something wrong with them. And the time the local news gave to this issue is impressive as well....Read More


Leaving a church and finding God's grace

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 07, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

In December of 2001, just a few months after my 25th birthday, I was ordained as a minister in the Presbyterian Church (USA). My ordination was the end of a long process of discernment and formation that had begun a...Read More


HRC: Corporate Equality Index changes for better transgender health care

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 07, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

Editors' note: Meghan Stabler is a nationally recognized spokesperson and activist for the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. She also served on Senator and then President-Elect Obama's LGBT Policy Committee. There are many issues with regards to adequate access...Read More


Day of Silence counter-protest canceled

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 07, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Ya think? A day devoted to telling students to make LGBT teens feel ashamed, out of place, and hopeless might not be a good idea right now? "All the recent attention to bullying helped us realize that we need to...Read More


Top celebrity "It Gets Better" videos

Filed by Bil Browning | October 07, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

I really struggled with the title with this post. First I considered, "Celebrities jump on the bandwagon stuffed with our dead kids' bodies," or "Celebrities get warm fuzzy publicity on our bullied youths' backs." Those seemed a little harsh, but...Read More


The Meticulous, Efficient and Perhaps Inevitable Murder of God by American Religion

Filed by Father Tony | October 07, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

The obvious blood on the hands of American religious leaders is that of LGBT youngsters driven to despair by exclusion from salvation, from the consolation of the earthly flock, and from a place at the table of God in the...Read More


The context of bullying and how I was part of it

Filed by Susan Raffo | October 06, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

She still feels shy about it. It doesn't matter how many times we tell her that she gets to make her own decisions; that it is not her responsibility to take care of or protect us, she still gets shy...Read More


Chicago Stands Up Against Anti-Gay Bullying & LGBT Suicide

Filed by Waymon Hudson | October 06, 2010 | 1:30 PM | comments

It's been a hard month for many LGBT people and their allies. The news has been filled with horrific story after horrific story of bullied gay or questioning youth who have taken their own life. While LGBT bullying and the...Read More


KKK to rally for anti-gay counseling student

Filed by Bil Browning | October 06, 2010 | 12:30 PM | comments

Jennifer Keeton, the Augusta State University student who filed suit against the school after she was expelled for refusing to attend diversity classes, has found some support from an appropriate group. The Ku Klux Klan has announced that they will...Read More


Trans guy calendar for sale

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 06, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

A group of people got together to make a trans man calendar to raise money to help trans men with transition-related expenses. Check out their site....Read More


Churches That are Anti-Gay are not Holy

Filed by Joe Mirabella | October 06, 2010 | 10:30 AM | comments

Spiritual bullying is deadly. Children are listening when religious leaders call gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people sinners. Children hear them when they shout "abomination" from the pulpit. "Thou shalt not!" they scream into our children's ears. There is no...Read More


Our anniversary: A dozen years

Filed by Bil Browning | October 06, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

It seems crazy that it's been so long... Today is my and Jerame's anniversary. We've been together for 12 years now - a full dozen. We've had our ups and downs like any other couples, but we've also faced quite...Read More


Enough is Enough: Andrew Shirvell Creates Climate of Harm & Hostility

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 06, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Shane Windmeyer is the executive director of Campus Pride, the only national organization for student leaders and campus organizations working to create a safer college environment for LGBT students. Warren J. Blumenfeld, Ed.D., is Associate Professor in the...Read More


It's back to school for LGBTQ people

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 05, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

I'm hoping it's just the few people who I see on listserves and the few, better known gay and pro-gay people out there who think that DADT repeal and same-sex marriage would solve the problem of homophobic bullying in schools....Read More


New study finds lots of LGB's in the US

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 05, 2010 | 5:00 PM | comments

After posting last week on the recently-released CDC study on HIV rates among MSM interviewed in 21 urban areas, one question someone asked in the comments if all studies were similarly "problematic." Whenever I see a study that states "X%...Read More


Suicides: Words Can Kill

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 05, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

A rash of suicides last week and I am at a loss as to what to say. No words can console the people who lost their loved ones. It seems no words will wake up the world to the pain...Read More


I'm somebody's fetish!

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 05, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Drew Cordes is a transgender woman from Albany, N.Y. She is a 2004 graduate of Vassar College. When I started to address my gender issues and transition from male to female, I thought there was a...Read More


Sad. Mad. Glad.

Filed by Kate Clinton | October 04, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Those were my emotional flash card options when I first started therapy. I would tell stories about growing up and my therapist would ask me how I felt. I'd start, "Well I think..." That's when she started with the cards....Read More


The war on LGBT teachers is about controlling what kids think of themselves

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 04, 2010 | 6:00 PM | comments

The solution to LGBT teen suicide, specifically death-by-bullying, should be about the students. There's a lot of attention being paid to gay teen suicide right now, and I hope that it doesn't get misdirected to other projects that people want...Read More


"It Gets Better" with Gay Brothers!

Filed by Mark S. King | October 04, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

My brother Dick and I couldn't resist making a contribution to this campaign. Dick has often shown up on my video blog, "My Fabulous Disease," but never have we spent three more heartfelt minutes than these. Anyone with a video...Read More


Holy Smokes, She Got a Job

Filed by Sara Whitman | October 03, 2010 | 7:00 PM | comments

Looking over my last year of posts, I realize I've been writing about shifting, change, new directions... I had no idea what was going to change or shift but I knew something was clearly on the horizon. Now I know....Read More


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Don't Try Suicide Nobody's Worth It

Filed by Davina Kotulski | October 03, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

"Suicide, suicide, suicide baby, don't do it, don't do it, don't it baby." --Queen Perhaps you remember Freddy Mercury, Gay Asian American rockstar and lead singer of the band QUEEN singing on the B side of the 45 of "Another...Read More


Moving Day - In Search of Lost Time

Filed by Dr. Jillian T. Weiss | October 03, 2010 | 2:30 PM | comments

I have moved so many times over the past 15 years, probably about 10 times, and it is always difficult. And I'm moving again, today. It's not just the packing and the boxes and the labor. It's Marcel Proust's "A...Read More


My Life Again in New York, continued

Filed by Steven Cheslik-DeMeyer | October 03, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Last Wednesday I met a friend at the public library for an author talk with Justin Spring, whose book Secret Historian: The Life and Times of Samuel Steward, Professor, Tattoo Artist, and Sexual Renegade just came out. Spring gave a...Read More


Does It Really Get Better?: A Conscientious Critique

Filed by Jason Tseng | October 03, 2010 | 11:30 AM | comments

Dan Savage recently launched the It Gets Better Project, a youtube testimonial campaign designed to remind queer teens that it gets better after high school. Savage and those joining the project attempt to address the uptick or at least an...Read More


Gay Teen Suicide, Homophobia, Bullying and the Elephant in the Room: Religious Bigotry

Filed by Michael Hamar | October 02, 2010 | 2:00 PM | comments

In the aftermath of a cluster of gay teen suicides, there has been a great deal of commentary and discussion in the media, both LGBT and mainstream, about bullying and its destructiveness. A number of bloggers and commentators have skirted...Read More


School Bullying: A National Pandemic Disease

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | October 02, 2010 | 12:00 PM | comments

A lot of people are jarred by the recent explosion of LGBT school suicides. Five in the last three weeks -- notably the horrific bullying and bridge-jumping death of Tyler Clementi at Rutgers University. LGBT rallies and protests are happening....Read More


Tonight: Moment of Silence for 5 Youth Who've Died By Suicide

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 01, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Charles Robbins is the Executive Director of The Trevor Project, the non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. Late last night, The Trevor Project...Read More


Tonight: Moment of Silence for 5 Youth Who've Died By Suicide

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 01, 2010 | 4:00 PM | comments

Editor's Note: Charles Robbins is the Executive Director of The Trevor Project, the non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth. Late last night, The Trevor Project...Read More


Tell Me Again: How Did I End Up Here?

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | October 01, 2010 | 3:00 PM | comments

I have just sat down on somewhat wobbly legs. I've had lunch and some caffeine, and now I'm coming down from all the adrenaline. From what? A taped debate about "Cupcakegate" with Micah Clark, executive director of the American Family...Read More


Bill introduced to eliminate abstinence-only education

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 01, 2010 | 1:00 PM | comments

Lest we forget in the list of Incredibly Basic Things the Democrats Didn't Accomplish in Two Years, the federal government is still funding abstinence-only education. The Senate introduced a bill to stop that money, but I'm guessing it's too late...Read More


Michigan anti-gay stalker takes leave of absence from Attorney General's office

Filed by Bil Browning | October 01, 2010 | 11:00 AM | comments

Michigan Assistant Attorney General Andrew Shirvell has come under quite a bit of fire since his interview with CNN's Anderson Cooper aired earlier this week. While the story had simmered locally, the sudden exposure on national news hurried Shirvell's decline...Read More


Anti-gay bullying also targets girls

Filed by Alex Blaze | October 01, 2010 | 9:30 AM | comments

Even though her mother says she's not gay, this is still homophobic bullying (transcript available at the link):...Read More


It Gets Better

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 01, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

I spent a lot of time contemplating the topic for my first Bilerico post. I wanted to write something uplifting and light in order to introduce myself to you. But the rash of suicides of gay youth this week have...Read More


It Gets Better

Filed by Rev. Emily C. Heath | October 01, 2010 | 8:30 AM | comments

I spent a lot of time contemplating the topic for my first Bilerico post. I wanted to write something uplifting and light in order to introduce myself to you. But the rash of suicides of gay youth this week have...Read More