Living: March 2013

Dan Choi

Should We Worry About Dan Choi's Mental Health?

Filed by Viktor Kerney | March 29, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

After this current incident, I have to wonder about the overall mental health of Dan Choi.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/29/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 29, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The layer who got marriage equality going, MI Republicans get angry over an anti-gay Facebook posting, an anti-LGBT musical in Malaysia, the Irish government treats foreign-born trans* folk better than natives, and more. Read More


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For Passover: Liberation from Prop 8 & DOMA

Filed by Davina Kotulski | March 27, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Like the Jews who were enslaved for hundreds of years in Egypt, for hundreds of years, LGBT people have been enslaved by injustice and discrimination. We've been told we are inferior.Read More


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Confirm the Heritage of Equal Protection of the Laws

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 27, 2013 | 12:30 PM | comments

Should the civil and human rights of minoritized people be placed up for a vote or left to the discretion of state legislatures? In other words, should the majority determine the rights of minorities?Read More


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The Weight of History: Marriage Equality at the Supreme Court

Filed by John M. Becker | March 27, 2013 | 11:00 AM | comments

No one knows for certain how the Supreme Court will rule in June. But we do know that the day will soon come when LGBT individuals, couples, and families are equally protected under the law. And we know that we will win this fight.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/27/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 27, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The audio of Tuesday's SCOTUS oral arguments is available for download, an Arizona GOP representative takes another run at anti-trans* legislation, asking what marriage equality means for sexual freedom, and more. Read More


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GENDA & New York: A False Controversy

Filed by Drew Cordes | March 26, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Even though public polling shows overwhelming support for trans* protections, many lawmakers will not vote for basic transgender civil-rights bills. Their reasoning? Bathrooms. Read More


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Supreme Court to Hear Prop. 8 Arguments: What You Need to Know

Filed by Sarah Blazucki | March 26, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Today, Prop. 8; tomorrow DOMA. If you haven't been following along (or read up), here are some resources.Read More


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Daytime Television and Sexual Assault: Will 'Days' do the 'Prison Rape' story?

Filed by Sue Kerr | March 25, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

All signs point to Nick being raped by Vargas and displacing his reaction to hating gay people. It is a terrible idea in so many ways; I am hoping they don't go there.Read More


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Thousands Protest Marriage Equality in Paris, London

Filed by Sarah Blazucki | March 25, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Anti-gay protesters clashed with police in Paris ahead of "marriage for all" vote next month.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/25/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 25, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

NYC's Health Dept warns of meningitis risk, Karl Rove vacillates, NOM gets more brazenly hateful, GLAAD gets a new(ish) name, new books convey the gay experience in parts of Africa, problems with a paperless future, and more. Read More


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Was Marco McMillian Killed in Mississippi Because He Was Black or Gay?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | March 24, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

As an openly gay African-American candidate running for the mayoral seat in Clarkdale, Miss., McMillian was quietly signaling that neither his race nor his sexual orientation would abort his aspirations.Read More


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Our 7th Anniversary - How Far We've Come

Filed by John M. Becker | March 24, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's hard for me to believe that Michael and I have already been married for seven years. But it really has been that long, and we really have come a long way in our lives, in our marriage, and in the struggle for marriage equality.Read More


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Marriage Equality Supporters to Rally at Supreme Court, 50 States for Prop. 8 and DOMA

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 22, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Thousands are expected to turn out in ahead of the Prop. 8 and DOMA Supreme Court arguments March 26 in Washington, D.C.Read More


Raising Boys to be Men Who Can Stop Rape

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 22, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Protecting the identity of the victim is the right thing to do in this case, but it has the impact of making her disappear for many people who lack sufficient empathy or imagination to work out that the victim whose name they don't know, whose face they never see, and whose voice they never hear is as real and human as the rapists whose identities are not hidden.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/22/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 22, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Smith College excludes trans* women, CO gets civil unions, youth who oppose marriage equality vow to keep fighting, supporting Kate Bornstein, Chris Christie could veto a ban on ex-gay therapy, and more. Plus: Tina Fay revisits Sarah PalinRead More


GetEqual Tells Supreme Court: History is Watching!

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 21, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Major civil-rights decisions are the most famous in the history of the court. The justices that make the inevitable ruling of national marriage equality will secure their legacies forever. Will it be the current Supreme Court?Read More


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President Obama: Still Turning a Deaf Ear to Equality for LGBT Working Families

Filed by Rebecca Juro | March 21, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

With the U.S. economy being what it is, you'd think signing an executive order to protect the rights of working class LGBT Americans would be a no-brainer for a president who campaigned for office on LGBT inclusion and equality as...Read More


Media Joins Victim-Blaming Culture After Steubenville Verdict

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 20, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

It's bad enough that sympathy for the rapists crowded out any mention of the victim and the impact on her life. We almost expect that kind of thing from Fox News, but CNN?Read More


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Habemus Papam, No Homo

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 20, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Does Pope Francis have it out for the gays? It is far more complicated than just a yes or no.Read More


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A Letter to a College-Aged 'Bro'

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 20, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

What follows is a collection of advice I gave a one such college-aged gay "bro" a few months ago about (not) fitting in with other LGBT people.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/20/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 20, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

A rainbow-painted LGBT center with a view of the Westboro Baptist Church, marriage equality a possibility in NM, Arizona wants to tie bathroom use to birth certificate, Clinton evolves, a humorous take on bisexuality, and more. Read More


Women, Gender Stereotypes and Gay Men

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 19, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

When we investigate gender roles in society, we begin to see its impact on the gay community. For example, it's not uncommon for two male partners to emulate a husband and wife within their relationship. It seems to occur almost instinctively, and if unaware amongst the men in the relationship, it's certainly being discussed amongst peers and acquaintances.Read More


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Michelle Shocked Doctrine

Filed by Jessica Max Stein | March 19, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Folksinger beloved by legions of queer women unleashes an anti-gay rant ... on a San Francisco audience, no less. Read More


Bravery: A Lesson Learned Later

Filed by Mark Segal | March 19, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Before I stepped before that camera, I was always frightened: To me, being scared meant I was not brave.Read More


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Hillary Clinton Puts Marriage Equality in Context of Human Rights

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 19, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Marriage equality should be "embedded in a broader effort to advance equality and opportunity for LGBT Americans and all Americans."Read More


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Checking Out: I'm Leaving to Discover Myself

Filed by Bil Browning | March 18, 2013 | 4:30 PM | comments

I'm about to slow my pace considerably this week. I have a week's worth of sunshine, ocean breezes, and my first visit to a nude beach to discover what I want to do with my life and the site.Read More


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In the Prime Time of Our Lives

Filed by Jesse Monteagudo | March 18, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

Prime Timers was founded by Woody Baldwin, a retired professor. Baldwin felt that older gay men needed social outlets within a community that catered almost exclusively to youth.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/18/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 18, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

CPAC attendees don't appreciate Robert Portman's change of heart, LGBT hate in Russia, a possible "functional cure" for some HIV cases, the impact of the Ryan budget proposal on trans* people, and more. Read More


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Pope Francis & the Sissies

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 17, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

I have one thing I want to say to Pope Francis before I go right back to not caring anymore. Read More


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Today's Rancho Bilerico Houseguest

Filed by Bil Browning | March 17, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

Today's Rancho Bilerico houseguest has never been here before.Read More


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Maryland Legislators Leave Trans* Citizens Afraid To Pee

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 15, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

The reason "public accommodations" is such a sticky wicket is because our culture equates gender segregation with safety. Somehow, if men and women had to use the same restroom facilities, it would be a great threat to the public.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/15/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 15, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

GLAAD bans the NYPost from their red carpet, a majority of Americans support marriage equality, the new Pope's anti-gay record, NARTH looses their tax exemption, the trans* rights bill in MD fails, and more. Read More


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LA Catholic Archdiocese Agrees to $9.9M Payout to Child Abuse Victims

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 14, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

On Tuesday, the Archdiocese of Los Angeles agreed to pay $9.9million to four men who say they were molested by parish priest Michael Baker, who is accused of molesting at least 23 boys over three decades.Read More


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Papal White Smoke Poisonous For Gay Catholics

Filed by Father Tony | March 14, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

If he thinks his home girl Evita's 'Rainbow Tour' was an embarrassing flop, I hope he's got his white watered silk seatbelt tightly fastened because he is in for a bumpy ride.Read More


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Some Thoughts on the Politics of the New Pope

Filed by Bil Browning | March 13, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

The College of Cardinals has chosen a new Pope and the big winner is Cardinal Jorge Mario Bergoglio of Argentina. He has chosen the name Pope Francis.Read More


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Boy Scouts Sends Out Slanted Survey Over Antigay Ban

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 13, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

The beleaguered Boy Scouts of America sent out Sunday to ostensibly seek opinions about whether the religious-based, officially anti-gay organization should lift their antiquated ban on gay Scouts and troop leaders.Read More


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Is Wells Fargo Guilty of Negligent Homicide?

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 13, 2013 | 1:30 PM | comments

According to the attorney general, our big banks have gotten so big that bringing criminal charges against them "will have a negative impact on the national economy, perhaps even the world economy." Is "Too Big To Jail" a license to kill? Read More


AIDS Policy That Doesn't Make Sense

Filed by Patricia Nell Warren | March 13, 2013 | 12:00 PM | comments

The world didn't come to an end on December 21st, as predicted by some. Meanwhile we're clicking into a new twelve-month round on the white man's calendar, not to mention the fourth decade of the AIDS epidemic.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/13/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 13, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The Vatican now owns a big gay spa, Colorado's legislature passes civil unions, The Queen doesn't come out strong for LGBT rights after all, trans* youth video blogging, and more. Read More


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The Issues with Projecting Our Experiences onto Others

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 11, 2013 | 2:00 PM | comments

It hardly seems a stretch to imagine that a person's related, but distinctly different experience from being LGBT, could contribute to the widespread belief that sexual orientation and gender identity are "lifestyle choices." Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/11/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 11, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Rev Louis Farrakhan advocates for bigotry in South America, Jeremy Hooper gives the NYTimes a piece of his mind, bee venom helps fight HIV, Valerie Harper on saying "gay" first, and much more. Read More


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Texting with Josh

Filed by Bil Browning | March 10, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

After my heart surgery slowed my pulse dramatically, the doctors warned me that it would likely kill my high metabolism. After last week's doctor appointment, their prediction came true when I realized I'd gained 12 pounds in about two months.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/8/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 08, 2013 | 10:30 AM | comments

Here's what you need to know for Friday, March 8th 2013Read More


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From Pole to Pole

Filed by Leslie Robinson | March 07, 2013 | 4:45 PM | comments

The man who helped tear down the Iron Curtain is now talking about building walls.Read More


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The Naked Truth

Filed by Sean Bugg | March 06, 2013 | 4:00 PM | comments

I was taken aback when I saw that Spa World had become the focus of a complaint for forcing a transgender woman to leave - a sudden reminder that you're still in Virginia where it remains legal to discriminate against LGBT people.Read More


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Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis, & 'The Homosexual'

Filed by Guest Blogger | March 06, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

After a presentation before the US Army's Department of Psychiatry, guest blogger William Meyer met a man, "Rob," in his 80's, who had endured years of very damaging psychoanalytic treatment.Read More


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Straight Catholics & 7th Day Adventists Out for Equality

Filed by Davina Kotulski | March 06, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Daneen Acker and Stephen Eyer are third and fourth generation 7th Day Adventists, who wanted their daughter to grow up in a religious community that was accepting of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/6/13

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 06, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

LGBT murders in Brazil increased dramatically in 2012, NOM owes Tyler Clementi's parents an apology, the BSA Jamboree's headline acts pull out over their anti-gay policy, cute kids are cute, and more. Read More


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Cool or Controversial? New 'Coming Out' Video for Youth

Filed by Kergan Edwards-Stout | March 05, 2013 | 5:00 PM | comments

What do you think of WellCast's new "Coming Out" video for youth? Is it cool or controversial?Read More


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How to Become the New Pope

Filed by Bil Browning | March 05, 2013 | 3:00 PM | comments

If none of us can become Pope (unless there's a Cardinal that reads Bilerico regularly!), let's skip to the next best popealicious question: If you became Pope, what would you take as your new name?Read More


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Confessions of an Occasional Work-From-Home Dad

Filed by Terrance Heath | March 05, 2013 | 1:00 PM | comments

"Work from home" flexibility isn't just a reflection of the "new workplace" but supports a lot of "new" families, in which men are more involved in their children's lives and care without having to be less involved with work.Read More


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The Pathologization of Trans* Identity

Filed by Drew Cordes | March 05, 2013 | 11:00 AM | comments

To be transgender is to harbor a gender-related dysphoria for one's body and because this is the most easily understood narrative and because people in white coats have devised some treatment methods for it, "transgender" and bodily dysphoria have become synonymous. Bullshit.Read More


Klonopin Is Not Bil-Friendly

Filed by Bil Browning | March 04, 2013 | 4:07 PM | comments

Dear God. I can barely think. All I want to do is sleep. I feel like I'm brain dead.Read More


12 Year Old Bullying Victim Dies in Delaware

Filed by Karen Ocamb | March 04, 2013 | 11:30 AM | comments

Bailey's family says he was jumped by two classmates during recess and suffered a concussion as well as a broken nose as a result. He began to suffer seizures the next day, forcing doctors to put him into a medically induced coma.Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/4/13 [Holy Crap: 2013 Edition]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 04, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

The 21st Century enters its teenage years, a child born with HIV is declared "cured," the Obama Administration files an anti-Prop 8 brief with SCOTUS, a democratic hero turns anti-gay in Poland, and more. Read More


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What You Need To Know for 3/1/12

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | March 01, 2013 | 10:00 AM | comments

Winter starts out the WYNTK with a PSA on not being an asshole, the Times runs a tearjerker, the X-Men feel the sting of DOMA, VAWA passes with LGBT provisions intact, and much more. Read More