Alex Blaze

Miss Manners: Great columnist or the greatest columnist?

Filed By Alex Blaze | May 25, 2007 10:23 AM | comments

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Tags: gay etiquette, Miss Manners

Check out this week's Miss Manners column. There's a great question about when it's appropriate to ask someone's sexuality, and, as always, Miss Manners gives the right answer. It is, of course, easy for her to give the right answer since she is by definition always correct.

Here's the meat of her response:

You may ask if you have a legitimate reason for wanting to know, and no, curiosity doesn't count. Falling in love, wanting to fix someone up, or recruiting for an organization where this is relevant could be sufficient reasons.
What do you all think about this? Is Miss Manners right here?

There's also a great question from a woman whose married couple friends have stopped inviting her out now that she's divorced, and Miss Manners says that she "finds it sadly discouraging to know that in the 21st century, there are still people who believe that it is improper for a lady to venture out socially, especially in the evening, without a gentleman to escort her."

Miss Manners calls 'em like she sees 'em!

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Eric Georgantes | May 25, 2007 10:48 AM

Greatest columnist?

I don't know who I'd give it to. I'm a bit smitten with Leonard Pitt's column at the moment, especially the two on Falwell and General Pace:

"That's why, four years into the Iraq debacle, there is painful irony in hearing the president's top military advisor give a lecture on morality. Team Bush misled the nation into war against the wrong enemy. It hospitalized wounded Americans in squalor and filth. It left the people we 'liberated'' without electricity, gasoline or medical services for months turning to years because of its failure to plan.

How moral is that? And how moral is it for the chairman of the joint chiefs to insult soldiers who are still in harm's way, soldiers who have been wounded, soldiers who have died, because they do not love as he would choose? The answer in two words: not very.

So the general will have to forgive me if I cannot take seriously his maundering on right and wrong. Where morality is concerned, his words serve only to make one thing clear: He doesn't know the meaning of the word."

But Miss Manners is fantastic, too. =)

Part of my respect for Judith Martin comes from when she was a film critic and gave only negative reviews for several dozen films in a row (I wish I had that bio of hers right in front of me to get the correct number, but it was a lot). She was asked about that and she replied with something along the lines of "Do you expect every movie to be a masterpiece?"

I was like, joy-gasm.

If they are asking, that means they are aware. I'd prefer that over assuming that everyone is straight.

In general I agree with Judith (and Paula) but it all depends on the circumstances & the people involved. Asking in a confrontational way is a big no-no, and blurting out the question while a part of a larger group seems kind of inappropriate too.

Asking personal questions out of sheer curiosity is almost always a bad thing though, as many a person has found out after asking a non-pregnant woman when she's due.