Serena Freewomyn

Better Know a Contributor: Waymon Hudson

Filed By Serena Freewomyn | May 25, 2008 6:30 PM | comments

Filed in: Entertainment
Tags: coming out of the closet, Joan Crawford, Waymon Hudson

Editor's Note: You've seen Steven Colbert's "Better Know a Lobbyist," but our version is so much gayer! Each weekend, we spotlight a different TBP contributor. In case you've missed any of our previous interviews, I've got links at the end of the post.

This week we're chatting with one of my favorite gays of all time, Waymon Hudson. Aside from being a hot piece of ass, Waymon is the President and Co-Founder of Fight OUT Loud, a national non-profit organization dedicated to helping LGBT individuals and their allies fight discrimination and hate. He is a vocal community activist and LGBT rights advocate.

Waymon has been happily partnered for 6 years with his husband Anthony. They received their civil union from Vermont and are registered domestic partners in Broward County, where they now live with their two wonderful dogs. He also is the proud foster parent of a now college-aged son. Waymon and Anthony plan to renew their vows next month during San Francisco Pride.

Follow me after the jump to find out why Waymon holds such a special place in this fag hag's heart.

1. How did you get involved with TBP?
I got recruited after Bil saw something I wrote in my blog on Myspace. He asked me to guest post, then brought me in to the dysfunctional family that is TBP. And I couldn't be happier!

2. What was your coming out experience like?
Looking back, it is hard to really pinpoint one single moment as when I came out. I grew up in a small farming community outside of Orlando, FL (the town name literally translates from Indian to "The Big Potato"... Yikes!). For as long as I can remember, I liked boys. I was just always different. I had a crush on Luke Skywalker, sang and danced along to Debbie Gibson, and played with Barbies. I loved musicals, the solo-flex commercials with sweaty men, and fashion. Not exactly your typical farm boy.

Not surprisingly, this never really sat well with my family or the people I grew up around. I was always the kid everyone called "Fag" or teased for being girly. It seems everyone knew I was gay before I did. I struggled with the feelings I had for other boys and tried to bury them. I tried to date girls, pray it away, or act "more like a boy" by attempting sports. By high school, I was already labeled as the token queer, even though I continued to deny it.

My life really started when I was kissed by my first boy my junior year at a rehearsal for the school musical (God bless you, Rogers and Hammerstein...) and realized I couldn't deny it any longer. It was like finally waking up and realizing who I was. I continued to deny it publicly, but privately started trying to find out all I could about what being gay meant, which was not an easy task in a small town where everyone knew everything about you. I looked online at gay websites and traveled to other cities to go to their public library to check out books on the subject. I became an undercover gay detective looking for some sense that I wasn't alone in how I felt.

I finally decided to go to New York University for college, realizing that I could never be who I really was in my hometown. Going to the city opened my eyes to a whole new and, might I say, super-gay world. It was a magical place where being gay wasn't disgusting or something to be ashamed of, but instead was just a part of everyday life. I quickly came screaming out of the closet and never looked back.

3. Who do you predict will win this season of American Idol?
Probably that horrible little gay elf, David Archuletta. Ugh. I wish it was Carly Smithson or better yet Danny Noriega. I loved them!

Editor's Note: I interviewed Waymon at the beginning of the week, before the Idol winner was announced. I couldn't be happier that he was wrong. Now I can rub his face in it!

4. If you could be your favorite character in a gay cult classic, who would it be?
Joan Crawford from "Mommy Dearest." It's actually what our son calls me as a nickname because of my obsession with cleanliness. The fact that I dressed up like Joan and made him watch the movie one night probably has something to do with it as well.

"I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at the dirt...!"

5. Favorite weekend indulgence?
Mojitos and reality TV. There's nothing like snuggling up with my hubby and our puppies on the couch with some bad TV and a drink. It's heaven.

6. Best thing about being a blogger?
Having a place to rant and rave. There's nothing quite like being able to express yourself and have folks both agree with you and challenge you. Plus, I can blog in my PJ's and not have to do my hair. What could be better!

Check out previous interviews with TBP Contributors
Alex Blaze
Don Sherfick
Sara Whitman
Brent Hartinger
Cathy Renna

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I have to say that Waymon's one of my favorites, too. His articles and comments are always right on. And, his unflinching support for the trans community is something that others need to emulate. Thank you, Waymon, for all you have done for all LGBT people in your part of the world.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | May 26, 2008 4:38 AM

Everything Waymon, must read, all the time.

Now about those wire coat hangers, and the Pepsi encorsements....We (at Doctor Pecker) have found that if you place a wire coat hanger in a bottle of Pepsi it will rust away in seconds flat.

Special formulation or just coincidence?

You have to merit Miss Crawford. It was so much easier to come out in her day, in the back of a nice roomy Desoto, wearing a red smear of lipstick and slingback "come fuck me" pumps! !!;^)

Monica- Thanks for your sweet words. It has been great getting to know you through TBP. I always look forward to your comments and the way you really force me to think and articulate my views. :)

RG- I have been blessed to be able to get to know you and enjoy our email exchanges immensely, no matter which one of your many personalities (and I think they are all based on diva movie stars...) shows up.

It has been great having a place like TBP to express ideas, get challenged to rethink what I believe, and make a new wonderful, dysfunctional family.

Actually, Waymon - was it MySpace? I think it was the magazine for Southern Florida that you were doing political analysis for... The owner left a comment here at TBP while led me to the site which led me to you.

Either way - I love having you here. You've quickly become one of my favorite contributors and as an editor, I have no qualms about leaving the site in your hands. I know you'd take good care of the site - as well as Alex or I!

Oooo! I think you're right, Bil. It was for You just stalked me on MySpace. I get the two situations confused. :)

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | May 26, 2008 11:03 AM


Only ONE of them is a diva movie star and I won't tell you who...

The others include a six year old, a businessman,
and half of the characters in Robin Williams head.