Sara Whitman

Home Again

Filed By Sara Whitman | May 22, 2009 6:00 PM | comments

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Tags: blog home, Sara Whitman, Suburban Lesbian Housewife

Note from Bil: This crosspost from Suburban Lesbian Housewife blog is Sara's announcement that she's moving into Bilerico Project as her full-time blog home. Alex and I are both incredibly happy Sara is joining us as a prominent personality on the site and I'd like to publicly thank Sara for putting so much faith in Bilerico Project that she's willing to hang her hat with ours. I've loved the personal stories and political posts she shared with us before - to get the honor of printing them all is a gift I'm overwhelmed to gratefully receive.

I came home a couple days early. I missed my family. My family missed me. Jeanine asked and I willingly made it home in time for Zachary and Jake's baseball games.

It feels great to be home.

All of my time away was not spent going through gruesome moments of the past. I also spent a great deal of time reflecting on what I'm doing now.

And... um... painting the garage. It was driving me crazy.

There were a couple of interesting things that I realized, without really trying.... one was that I ate almost no meat the whole time I was away. Little chicken, little bacon, some eggs, but no beef at all. I didn't miss it and to be honest, I'm not sure I like it all that much. Donald inspired me with his Pad Thai- it was very good.

I didn't miss reading the newspaper but I did miss doing the crossword puzzle.

My children are capable of putting away all their laundry, putting their dishes in the dishwasher, but the minute I walk in the door, they can't make their own lunches for school.

This, I don't mind so much. I do like making lunches- shhh. Don't tell anyone.

My life is very full. I spent too much time chasing news and not enough time with my friends. Every day, I am going to dedicate a couple hours to something that has nothing to do with the computer. Take a walk, shoot some pictures, try a new recipe, have coffee with someone who doesn't want a donation.

Which I also remembered while away, some very important advice my mother always gave me. When you start to believe you are the smartest, most beautiful in the room, instead of understanding you are writing the checks? It's time for a kick in the pants. I know a few people who need a kick in the pants.

When I take long periods of time, write, rewrite, I come up with some decent writing. When I blog quickly, I come up with ok stuff. I need to spend more time, more deeply, more thoughtfully on my writing.

But I do love to blog- which I realize is an entirely different animal. This blog has served me well. I have loved writing it. I have a fairly small audience but a very loyal one.

Thank you.

I've decided to start posting, primarily, at I will continue to post on occasion at Huffington, and have been told to consider a Daily Kos diary. I'm not sure how I'll deal with not getting the instant gratification of "publish post" so we will consider this summer an experiment. I think it's the right fit for me. I will still respond to comments, just as I always have.

I hope you don't mind following me there. I will, for a while, post a link here to the piece on Bilerico, so the RSS feed with continue to work.

I feel calmer, more confident, and more settled than I have for a long time. I think I've addressed all the different "voices" and their needs. The General feels productive, the Athlete thinks it might get some work outs in during the non computer time, the Worrier is.. well, worried you'll all stop reading, and while the Tough Guy still wants simply blow everything off, the summer filled with the beach, kids, and friends isn't such a bad idea.

I'm home.

I'm really home.

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and you sound terrific. welcome back. Thanks for the stories. I felt like i went with you.

Robert Ganshorn Robert Ganshorn | May 23, 2009 7:35 AM

It sounds just wonderful Sara. You are always Supermom to me. It is time to concentrate on quality rather than quantity and you are surely doing the right thing. I will look forward to your future posts and wish you well.


just because you have made it harder to find you doesn't mean we won't track you down and harrass you!!!

you bolted from downeast too early, the weather turned beautiful after you left. wish you all were here for the weekend.

This has always been your home, Sara! :)

Welcome, Sara, although you are hardly a newcomer around here! I'm glad to see more parenting insight in these parts, however, especially from those with older kids. (That way, I can take notes for when my own son gets older.)

Looking forward to more of your writing, whether on parenting or other topics.

In a world full of fifth rate distractions passing themselves off as priorities, your reminder to focus is timely!

you all are very sweet. thank you.

dana, watch out. Kids get scarier as they get older. trust me.

I thought something in the cosmos had shifted...

We're happy to have you here full-time, Sara. I think everyone should be here and nowhere else, but I'm kinda biased. LOL

I hope you enjoy your new blog home.

David Wilson | May 24, 2009 8:39 PM

I, for one, missed you alot! Now that you are hanging your hat on a site that I do visit once in a while, I guess I have just one more way to keep in touch. Just arrived in ptown for a week of similar reflection but I'd love to catch up with you mid week. So glad you are home!