Waymon Hudson

Our One Year Wedding Anniversary: A Journey of Recognition

Filed By Waymon Hudson | June 27, 2009 4:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Living, Marriage Equality, Media, The Movement
Tags: California, marriage, New Jersey, Prop 8, relationship recognition, same-sex marriage

One year ago, we made a trek from Florida to California to celebrate our 6 year anniversary (this year makes it 7). While visiting San Francisco on June 27, Anthony and I were lucky enough to become one of the 18,000 couples legally wed before Prop 8 stripped the right away.

kist.JPGWhile we may be "limited edition married gays" now, nothing can take away the amazing day when we not only celebrated our love, but also had an entire city celebrate it with us.

The recognition of our relationship seemed to follow America's own learning curve- from a "commitment ceremony" with family to our civil union in Vermont, to finally being legally married.

Much more (including pictures) after the jump...

Our families often joke that we have more weddings than Newt Gringrich- they just happen to be to the same person...

It's also interesting to see how people on the outside react to the evolution of our relationship recognition. While it's only been 7 years, looking back seems like light years of difference in the way people refer to us. Words like you "special friend" or "partner" have been replaced by "your husband." The major newspapers here in South Florida even reported on our wedding and published pictures since Anthony was running for office at the time.

All of this and the sky hasn't fallen! A year of marriage equality for us and no marriages were destroyed by our "insidious gay agenda bent on destroying traditional marriage." So sorry, Senator Ensign and Governor Sanford, you can't pin your problems on us!

People may debate the importance of marriage equality in our movement, but I will say it has meant a lot to me personally. Watching and being part of the changing view of gay relationships has been an illuminating journey. We've always known what we mean to each other, but seeing other recognize it definitely has an impact.

So Happy Anniversary, my love! I am lucky to have someone who challenges me, supports me, and makes me a better person. And I'm blessed that other people are beginning to recognize and celebrate that love as well.

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Congratulations to both of you! All the best.

Aww. You two are so cute. Best wishes for many more years together.

You guys have a beautiful thing, Best wishes and many more years to come.

diddlygrl | June 28, 2009 2:18 AM

I am glad that the both of you were able to make the public and civil commitment of your love and devotion that a marriage is all about. Happy anniversary and many more to come, you two are such a cute couple, and anyone who says you two can't and shouldn't be married is a poopyhead!

LOL- thanks DG! Down with the poopyheads! :)

Congratulations, and may you have many more anniversaries.

Erich Riesenberg | June 28, 2009 7:32 AM

Thanks for this story, it is inspiring. I wish gay people and all people could be more positive and less critical of our differences.

I'm so happy for the both of you.

Congratulations, to both of you!

Congratulations, to both of you!

Thanks to everyone for the amazing well-wishes! :)

Congratulations to both of you!! My husband and I also reside in Florida and tied the knot in California (in West Hollywood) last year. Our wedding day was September 25, after having been together for 27 years. And while I would not trade those previous 27 years for anything, the special feelings that have come from actually being married are like nothing else.

beachcomberT | June 28, 2009 6:45 PM

Hi Waymon & Anthony... Congratulations on further cementing your relationship legally. I am curious, though -- has the California marriage ceremony really helped you in any way legally in Florida? I am just wondering if it is worthwhile for Floridians to travel to Massachusetts, Maine, Iowa, etc., for a marriage ceremony.

I am sure the emotional and spiritual benefits are genuine, but did you gain anything in legal or economic benefits? Or were you being proactive, taking this step in anticipation of the Supreme Court or Congress some day legalizing same-gender marriage nationwide?