Alex Blaze

Poster child

Filed By Alex Blaze | July 09, 2009 9:30 AM | comments

Filed in: Marriage Equality, Media
Tags: black eyed peas, f-bomb, language, n-word, perez hilton, violence,

This perez-hilton-advocate.jpgis a bit old, but I couldn't let it completely fall by the wayside.

But Perez tells me that, in the heat of the moment that night, he almost chose to use a different word. "I thought about calling him the n word," he says over the phone a week after the incident, "but I thought the f word was even worse. I was so filled with hate at that moment because I was hated on so much, and I reacted in the worst way possible. Then I went on to make a bunch of other mistakes. I shouldn't have made the video. I shouldn't have released so many statements. But what's come out of all of this is that I've learned so much about myself, and I'm in a much better place. I'm actually thankful that it happened.

You know, I just gotta say that the people who thought that the campaign Hilton led against Isaiah Washington last year to get him fired from Grey's Anatomy for calling someone a "faggot" was at least a little bit motivated by racism all turned out to be right. Hilton obviously doesn't care if people throw around "faggot" as an insult.

And while Hilton says that he's not intellectual enough to keep from calling people "faggot," he's most likely just a terrible human being.

But, hey, he speaks for you. After a mainstream media tour a few months ago to talk about same-sex marriage because of his question to Carrie Prejean about same-sex marriage, and his position as one of the most famous out gay men in the country, I'm sure a lot of people now associate "gay" with him.

Throw in that Advocate cover, which describes him as "infuriating" as if he were Crankshaft, a bit insensitive, at times unpredictable, yet lovable. Considering it's a studio shot that accompanies a way-too-serious article, people might start to get the impression that we really like Perez Hilton or something. If they do, it won't be their fault.

No wonder so many people hate us. And no wonder we still have issues with outreach into communities of color. If I thought even a majority of gay men were like Perez Hilton, I'm not sure I'd like us much either.

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The two worst public relations disasters for LGBTQ this year have been Perez Hilton and Sacha "Gay-Basha" Cohen, aka Bruno.
Can we dump them both?

A. J. Lopp | July 9, 2009 11:29 PM

Although the verdict clearly is in on Perez (see my badmouthing of him below), I'd like to actually see the movie Bruno before passing judgment on it and its creator. From what I hear, Cohen uses Bruno's gayness to make homophobes look bad at several points in the movie. While Bruno is a baffoon, so are many other characters by other comics, and I'm not sure he is ridiculing gays any more than Lucille Ball ... or Conan O'Brien ... ridicules folks with flaming red hair.

Context is everything ... oh, wait, I think I already said that.

I've long had misgivings about Perez. I mean, he's a gossip blogger, fer chrissakes, so we can't expect him to have too much integrity. Anyway, this just confirms exactly what you said: He's a terrible human being.

I've long had misgivings about Perez. I mean, he's a gossip blogger, fer chrissakes, so we can't expect him to have too much integrity. Anyway, this just confirms exactly what you said: He's a terrible human being.

David Castillo David Castillo | July 9, 2009 11:06 AM

I couldn't agree more, Alex. The idea that the "f" word is worse than the "n" word is ridiculous and it's a shame that The Advocate highlighted his antics. The Advocate, which has an atrocious record when it comes to covering issues important to gay people of color, would do well to start featuring cover stories about people that matter versus stories about people who make the community look like a bunch of dolts.

I couldn't agree with this blog more. While it is unfortunate what happened to him that night, Perez Hilton degrades and insults people on a daily basis. His black eye will clear up, the legal loose ends have to be tied up from this, and his life will move on. The articles he posts on his website and the meanness he spreads, however, will live on forever. Millions of people see his crude doctoring of photographs and nasty comments daily. He perpetuates every negative gay stereotype and makes the work of GLBT activists that much more difficult.

During the whirl-wind of media coverage following the Miss USA Pageant, he was more than willing to be a voice and representative of the community, yet in one of his statements after the attack he says he never wanted to be a spokesperson. Flip-flop much?

A. J. Lopp | July 9, 2009 4:37 PM

Serves you right, Perez, for screwing around with Fergie and And had you ended up with two black eyes, I wouldn't have an gram more sympathy.

Gay, straight, or whatever, this jerk deserves to land in the dustbin of obscurity. And if only we ignore him from here on out, that's exactly where he will end up.

Seriously. Dissing my girl Fergie is fighting words.

As anti-violence as I am (Ok, not really), the whole incident boiled down to a dude calling another dude a faggot and getting punched for it. It's not really all that complicated.

No wonder so many people hate us? I think what Perez Hilton does for a living is pretty rotten in the first place, let alone his actions at that party; but scapegoating him as the cause for pervasive institutional homophobia is ridiculously irresponsible and makes light of the reasons people DO hate us.

Perhaps instead of ostracizing a member of our community for a terrible deed and confusing that with being a terrible person, we should look at the conditions that created the incident. Why do we still think calling someone gay or black (particularly in their awful "f" and "n" forms)is the worst thing you can call someone?

Perhaps we can take this opportunity to educate Perez Hilton and make him a true leader and activist, teaching him about how racism and homophobia intersect and affect our lives. Just a thought.

I won't go into Hilton. I've done it enough. What I WILL say though is that when I saw him on the cover of the Advocate I lost any and all potential respect for the mag. Simple as that. Anything that claims to be on our side, but would give him the time of day, is lying through its teeth or else is incredibly stupid. Either way, it needs to be fixed. This is a man who needs to shut the hell up before he destroys our community from the inside...and yet here they are giving him MORE attention.

Never thought I'd quote Charlie the Unicorn but 'shun' is the only useful option towards him and anything on our side that offers him the time of day.

The Advocate and Out and all of those lost my respect years ago when a travel piece said that the best place to have public sex at Disney World was in the hall of Presidents. That to me was when any hope I had of the gay press went completely be the wayside.

I think that too much of the gay press is caught up in queering up the corners of the news that we lose sight of the fact of why people of color and LGBT people are so stigmatized: People hate and fear what they don't understand.

I really hope we can get past our differences and move toward equality for all, and issues of social justice. I walked door-to-door for Obama last year in what could be called black neighborhoods. I was way out of my comfort zone, in all honesty, but after talking to a few people, it felt great to rise above my basest impulses of fear and doubt.

We really can be a better country, but we have to move beyond Perez, the f word, the n word, and other pejoratives and just get to know each other. We can't even think about getting along unless we are ready to talk to our neighbors.

Erich Riesenberg | July 11, 2009 8:39 AM

I assumed Perez Hilton was a drag queen until the beauty queen incident, had heard of him but never knew anything about him.

Who cares. Another celebrity freak.