Waymon Hudson

You've Got (Hate) Mail: Ex-Gay Faux "Intellectual" Conservatism Edition

Filed By Waymon Hudson | April 14, 2010 4:00 PM | comments

Filed in: Fundie Watch, Media, Politics
Tags: ex-gay, fundies, hate mail, Intellectual Conservatism, NARTH, PFOX, Sharon Kass

Sometimes something so crazy comes through your inbox that you just have to share it.

When the two major South Florida newspapers, the Miami Herald and the Sun-Sentinel, ran stories in print and online about our recent announcement about moving from Florida to Chicago, we knew we'd get the requisite anonymous anti-gay comments online and some hate mail. Disappointing, but not surprising.

080220_hate_mail_generic-thumb-200x105-5982.jpgThere was the usual online "fags" and "gross" comments left by people too scared to put their own names. Since the Herald ran a picture of us with our arms around each other and both papers referred to us correctly as husbands, bigots drug their knuckles out of their caves to declare that we were "throwing it in their faces" and shoving our perversion down their throats" (all without a hint of the giggles they were giving to progressive readers with a sense of humor). Again, disappointing, but nothing we haven't experienced before, especially given the anonymous cover the internet provides.

Enter Sharon Kass, a prolific letter writer, ex-gay activist, faux intellectual, and LGBT equality enemy based in Silver Spring, MD and DC. She tracked down my husbands work email and sent a ranting letter to us, decrying gay-egalitarianism, referencing debunked groups like NARTH and PFOX, and calling for "civil disobedience" against us and other gay and transgender folks.

The full email, in it's mind-boggling entirety, after the jump...

From Sharon Kass of Silver Springs Maryland (who is a frequent contributor to a "Intellectual Conservative" website full of such rantings that are not based in any fact):

hate mail-thumb-200x200-9719.jpgDear Prof. Niedwiecki:

I read about you in the Miami Herald today.

Please be advised that gay-egalitarianism will be eliminated from American law and culture.

It has no basis in fact, ethics, or constitutional law.

Homosexuality and transgenderism are psychological disorders that are preventable and treatable.  They spring from faulty bonding and identification with the same-sex parent, starting at age two.  They indicate deep-seated gender self-alienation, not "who you really are."  See www.narth.com, www.gaytostraight.org, www.peoplecanchange.com, and www.pfox.org.

The Left has used people with these conditions for political advantage.  But GayScam is being exposed for the sham it is.

The Fourteenth Amendment ("equal protection of the laws") does not apply to "gays."  It does not apply to women, either.

The Establishment Clause of the First Amendment does not preclude the use of natural law in the crafting of secular law.  Church non-establishment refers to ideas of God, worship, and the like.  But ideas of human well-being and fulfillment, and good social order, necessarily reflect transcendent values.  All law "imposes."  The Left has been imposing itself on society for quite a while now, with the help of false psychological and medical science and the biased work of education, law, and media.  Our government is in a sorry state.

The people have been driven to the recourse of mass civil disobedience to all gay-egalitarian laws.  To preserve justice, they must take it.

--Sharon Kass, Washington, D.C.

It's sweet how she started it with "Dear Prof. Niedwiecki", then jumped into how we will be eradicated, isn't it?

After a few reading of the email, I still can't see anything "intellectual" about it. She certainly owns a thesaurus and can string together big words, but they fail to make an cogent argument or have any basis in research, science, or reality.

In fact, she even admits that psychological and medical science,as well as education, law, and media, all disagree with her factless assertions, but that's only because of a massive conspiracy by wild, godless liberals.

It's also lovely how she throws in that women aren't considered equal under the law either. Just in case we had any doubt, she wants to make sure we know that she wants a 50's era "utopia" where gays AND women know their place.

I'm more troubled by her last line that calls for "mass civil disobedience to all gay-egalitarian laws." When fringe people like Sharon say civil disobedience, they don't mean protest marches and sit-ins. They refer to violence and retribution. It's the same cover that Tea Party activists have been using as a cover for intimidation, threats, and actual violence against people. One can see the concern that arrises when someone calls for action against a group of people, like the LGBT community, that already have a long history of hate crimes and violence perpetrated against them.

Kass has a history of this kind of overheated, faux-intellectual letter writing. Truth Wins Out has an exhaustive post about her past actions, where she threatens Montgomery County, Maryland, council member Duchy Trachtenberg because of her support of a bill opposing discrimination against transgender county residents, as well as her campaign against Washington, D.C., activist Rick Rosendall and most of D.C.'s elected leaders. Truth Wins Out had this to say of Kass:

Her letter was a laundry list of phony medical diagnoses, pet peeves, and automotonous rhetoric lacking any substantiation or tangible connection to reality.

Kass even had time that same month to publish a hate-based white paper, Jews and Gay Rights: How Social Approval-Seeking Has Led to the Betrayal of Judaism and the Fueling of an Insane Movement. The white paper repackages anti-Semitic propaganda into a tirade against gay Americans.

Already notorious for her harassment of antidiscrimination advocates at work and home...

Kass's behavior exemplifies why the ex-gay movement becomes disliked by some of those that come to know it.

I couldn't agree more.

It's clear Kass is simply a cut & paste letter writer with too much time on her hands and too much hate in her heart. Big words and debunked "science" don't make a false, ridiculous argument "intellectual" or in any way based in reality.

And it certainly doesn't cover up Kass's bigotry and hatred.

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Bill Vayens | April 14, 2010 4:12 PM

I think you should share her email address with us so that we can return the favor.

Her willingness to share it with you should preclude any expectation of privacy. Oh that and the fact that she's a raving loon (no offense to the state bird of Maine.)

While I may not have put up her email address, if a motivated person was to click on the link to her "Intellectual Conservative" website in the post above, her email address isn't too hard to find. :)

Did I read right? If it is as she said...and I use she loosely, then she has no right to be talking since Freedom of Speech (the 1st Amendment) does not apply to her along with the right to vote.

I quote: "The Fourteenth Amendment ("equal protection of the laws") does not apply to "gays." It does not apply to women, either."

I was thrown by that leap of "logic" too, Jo... She is a bucket o' crazy.

Jay Vachon | April 14, 2010 5:59 PM

Thank you Jo! I just almost flipped my chair when you said that. She did state that and I also agree with Waymon that she is a bucket o' crazy with a side of loony bin! Jeez. I love how ignorant some people are.

I should take a visit to her site since Ssempa is no longer speaking to me. Maybe she needs some enlightenment.

Good luck trying to enlighten her!

Dear Ms. Kass,

You have convinced me! I didn't even know I had issues with my parents until your letter, but since you presented such logical and incontrovertible evidence, I have no choice but to cede the point. I will divorce my husband forthwith, shut down my business, move to Texas and report to Exodus International first thing in the morning for de-gay-ifying reprogramming. Thank you so much for letting me see the light!

Kisses oops, sorry, force of habit

Sincerely, Nick

(Hopefully I made it obvious enough Poe's law doesn't apply?)

Juston Thouron Juston Thouron | April 14, 2010 9:04 PM

Thanks for that Nick. I had to look it up.

Poe's Law states:[1] “Without a winking smiley or other blatant display of humor, it is impossible to create a parody of Fundamentalism that SOMEONE won't mistake for the real thing.”

Poe's Law points out that it is hard to tell parodies of fundamentalism (or, more generally, any crackpot theory) from the real thing, since they both seem equally insane. Conversely, real fundamentalism can easily be mistaken for a parody of fundamentalism. For example, some conservatives consider noted homophobe Fred Phelps to be so over-the-top that they argue he's a "deep cover liberal" trying to discredit more mainstream homophobes.


"...since they both seem equally insane."

hahaha ..... RIOT!

I love that too! I think I need to do a whole post in Poe's Law! Thanks Nick & Juston!

Dear Ms Kass;
I am simply appalled that you would dare to simply ignore the inerrant Biblical truth expressed in St Paul'sepistles and presume to teach men! Are you somehow picking and choosing which portions of the Bible apply to you? Jesus says not a tittle of the law shall pass away til he returns in glory, yet here you are, speaking out, defying St Paul by presuming to lecture to men!

I suspect that you do not keep your head covered in church either, and that you are pride filled enough to wear blended fabrics while eating scallops as well.

Hell awaits, unless you turn away from such wrongdoing and acknowledge that the devil has been successfully whispering prideful thoughts in your ear on account of your own weak faith, which you, defying other Biblical precepts, cover up for by pointing out the speck in your neighbor's eye rather than removing the log from your own.

Yours in Hey-zeus;
Maura Hennessey

Juston Thouron Juston Thouron | April 14, 2010 9:01 PM
“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it. The lie can be maintained only for such time as the State can shield the people from the political, economic and/or military consequences of the lie. It thus becomes vitally important for the State to use all of its powers to repress dissent, for the truth is the mortal enemy of the lie, and thus by extension, the truth is the greatest enemy of the State.” - Joseph Goebbels

Waymon the thing I love about this post is that it has it all. I mean everything including the kitchen sink. In fact it is so dense with misapprehensions on her part it would require a dissertation just to identify, define and refute them all, with references.

She is a believer and purveyor of the Big Lie and obviously has nothing more substantive to offer. She is willfully engaging in any rationalization available to justify her beliefs. But what she fails to recognize is that the only place all of her inflated assertions make sense is within the confines of her particular interpretations of xtian dogma.

Also included is your sense of humor about the whole thing which is very very welcome.

honestly, you have to laugh about these things, otherwise they'll really get to you. but thanks!

You hit the nail on the head:

She is a believer and purveyor of the Big Lie and obviously has nothing more substantive to offer. She is willfully engaging in any rationalization available to justify her beliefs. But what she fails to recognize is that the only place all of her inflated assertions make sense is within the confines of her particular interpretations of xtian dogma.

I agree with your post. This woman is truly scary...Just a small typographical error correction, it's Silver Spring (no "s") on the end.

Sara (From Silver Spring)

Thanks for the tip, Sara! Fixed it. :)

Great read!

I always wonder just for argument sake, say we all believe that homosexuality is a mental disorder and we agree with the bigots on this point, I then ask why are the bigots treating people with a mental disability unequal. Does society now admit that those who have mental defects are not equal under the law?

I do not subscribe to that B.S. but I throw that out for discussion.


BTW - I think talking about this nut-job is exactly what she wants you to do. The statement from this idiots who picketed the Marines funeral, stated, they target the funerals of solders because they get more media interest.

It's all about getting media attention and advancing the hate agenda. Sometimes we play right into there hands.

You know, I don't subscribe to the "ignore them and they'll go away" idea.

I think it's important to shine a light on the sheer insanity, bigotry, and hate that some folks have for LGBT people. by sweeping it under the rug, it makes it seem like there is no problem for society as a whole.

I think pointing out the Westboro's or the Sharon Kass's of the world show exactly what we are up against and drive a wedge between them and fair-minded folks who may be on the fence about our rights. It makes a great example of the hate we are fighting against as a community. I think these fringe nuts help us in our fight against more "mainstream" (ugh) political anti-LGBT sentiment by connecting the two.

The mind boggles at the sincerity of some of these people. I mean if they actually believed in what they wrote then that would make them no better than the National Socialists of Germany circa the 30's as the quote from Goebbels points out.

Oh wait, they can't be socialists, that is a "liberal" thing.

The only thing scarier is knowing many of these wingnuts are heavily armed to boot.

the only email I could dig out was the infosri@juno.com that is posted at the end of her articles at the (laughs) Intellectual Conservatives website www.intellectualconservative.com

let the barrage begin ;)

My favorite part (other than gays and women not being covered under the 14th Amendment, of course) is that she's so riled up that she's tracked down Anthony's email address and wrote this screed even though she doesn't live in Florida - or Chicago for that matter.

She's a level of crazy you don't find too often. It's like Sarah Palin crossed with Anne Coulter with a splash of Glenn Beck for that extra bit of pizazz.

I bet FOX would give her a show in primetime...