Paige Schilt

Father's Day Gifts from a Trans Daughter

Filed By Paige Schilt | June 18, 2012 2:30 PM | comments

Filed in: Living, Transgender & Intersex
Tags: Derry Rundlett, Father's Day, Nicole Rundlett, parenting, transgender daughter, transition

Hallmark holidays like Mother's Day and Father's Day can be a challenge for LGBT folks, because our relationship to the nutty cluster of family life can be complicated. Derry_Nicki_SeniorGames2011.JPGYesterday, my friend Derry Rundlett published an homage to his loving daughter, Nicole Rundlett. He speaks candidly about the complex emotions surrounding Nicole's transition:

I wasn't sure how I should react. Was I supposed to try to change my child's mind? If I didn't, what would people think? Luckily, guidance arrived in the form of a pep talk from my stepdaughter Shelby, a clinical social worker. "Your job," she informed me, "is to be the most supportive father you can be." Shelby's comment was the best thing I could hear from someone I loved so much. She was the poster child of the reaction I was looking for in most people.

You can read the rest of the story in the Portland Press Herald. Derry, Nicole and I are working on a book about a dad's journey through his daughter's transition. It's a funny, dramatic, suspenseful tale about a somewhat unlikely ally. I believe it will be a valuable resource for parents of trans people.

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