John M. Becker

Former 'Ex-Gay' Leader Repudiates 'Ex-Gay' Myth

Filed By John M. Becker | February 11, 2014 11:00 AM | comments

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Tags: ex-gay, ex-gay myth, John Smid, Love in Action, pray away the gay

"The ExGay message of God's deliverance from the homosexual orientation has been destructive! It has created a dangling carrot of change without any real outcome of freedom from homosexuality. The damage has occurred in the subsequent loss of one's soul, or the destruction stemming from serial fleshly encounters that only leave one void and searching for the next one.

"I believe much of my grief today is also from how I played a role in furthering the message of deliverance from homosexuality. I used to teach that hope for their eternity would come when they found freedom. I conveyed a message that God would be more pleased with people who were not gay. I spent a tremendous amount of energy attempting to help men and women find a life of freedom of their natural homosexual desires.

"Today I realize that it is far better to help men and women accept their homosexuality is innate, and an authentic reality. Regardless of where it came from, it is what it is. There is freedom in Christ for someone to hope for intimate connection with anther compatible human being if they so choose to pursue it. For those who are satisfied with a life of singleness, there's a place for them to accept being gay and feel accepted and loved within that life experience. But neither choice can be made until they accept their homosexuality without shame."

-- Former "ex-gay" minister John J. Smid, who left the ministry in 2008 and apologized in 2010, repudiating the "ex-gay" myth in a blog post and embracing homosexuality as a naturally-occurring variation of the human sexual experience.

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